My 34-year-old cousin committed suicide today.
He has suffered from severe bipolar disorder for years, and in the end life was too much for him. He leaves behind two aging parents, a younger brother, an ex-wife who never stopped loving him, and a four-year-old son who never got the chance to know him.
Please remember him and his family in your prayers. This is a very painful time for us. May we be granted strength and patience and may Mani have found the rest with his merciful Lord that he could not find in life.
Inna lillahi wa inna ilahi raji’un – We belong to God and to Him is our return.
My other|matters post this week is dedicated to him.
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May 20, 2008 at 1:13 am
ABD
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.
mani, his family and you are in my du’a.
May 20, 2008 at 2:39 am
umarah
i am so sorry.very very tragic indeed.
May 20, 2008 at 4:13 am
otowi
I’m very sorry for the loss. May you all find peace.
May 20, 2008 at 4:52 am
Rebecca
Your family is in my prayers, Baraka. What a difficult future to face.
May 20, 2008 at 5:08 am
littlelake
Dear Baraka
May God give strength to you and your family in this most difficult of times.
My thoughts and prayers go to you.
Sincerely
Littlelake
May 20, 2008 at 5:58 am
yaser
to him we belong and to him we are returning. may god make this time easier for you and your family.
May 20, 2008 at 8:01 am
maximus mercury
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un
Baraka, I am so sorry to hear this. I cannot imagine what Mani’s family and you and your parents are going through. May Allah Taala grant Mani maghfirat and peace and may He always keep Mani’s son in His special panah and hifazat.
With deepest condolences and prayers…
May 20, 2008 at 9:01 am
Lisa Emrich
You and your family will be in my prayers.
May 20, 2008 at 10:14 am
Umm Layth
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un… subhana’allah barakah, i’m at a loss for words. Your family will be in our prayers, insha’Allah.
May 20, 2008 at 12:41 pm
Umm Salihah
Assalam-alaikam dear Barakah,
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through right now, and sad that Mani’s child will never get to know his dad. Especially Allah grant Sabr and ease to his elderly parents.
I hope he finds peace now and Allah accepts him into Jannah. Insh’Allah the struggles he had to face through life, I hope they elevate him in the next life.
May 20, 2008 at 12:44 pm
darvish
Ameen. My prayers are with Mani and his family, and you and yours in this time of grieving.
Ya Haqq!
May 20, 2008 at 12:47 pm
Pari Jan
Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji’un….I cried when I read this news. My 16 year old cousin committed suicide 4 years ago and it’s a pain that words can’t describe. You, your entire family, his child, all of you are in my prayers and thoughts. I am sending you a big hug.
May 20, 2008 at 2:57 pm
Safiyyah
As Salaamu Alaikum Sister:
I join the others here in sending my love and prayers.
May 20, 2008 at 3:50 pm
Saha
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un
oh dear Baraka, I’m so sorry. I will remember him and you and your family in my du’a. It is so terribly sad for his son.
May Allah surround him in His Mercy and give him the peace he has not had in life. Amin.
May 20, 2008 at 6:12 pm
skarim
assalam alaykum dear dear baraka -
i am so incredibly sorry to hear about mani’s loss: inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un. may Allah (swt) grant you and your family ease as you cope with his loss – you are in my du’aa.
much love,
s.
May 20, 2008 at 7:53 pm
Gulnari
May Allah ease your family’s sorrows and grant peace and rest to your cousin’s soul. May he be surrounded by Allah’s love and mercy. Amen. My heart aches for your loss. Lots of love.
May 21, 2008 at 8:04 am
dreamessence
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oon. I am so sorry to hear that. You’re in my prayers.
May 21, 2008 at 1:20 pm
Kate
Dear Baraka.
I am sorry to hear this news, and my heart goes out to Mani’s family, near and far. May God grant Mani the peace and healing he could not find in this life, and may His comfort embrace Mani’s parents, child, former wife, and family.
Kate
May 21, 2008 at 3:05 pm
Safia
Inna lillahi wa inna lilayhi raji’oon. I’m sorry for your loss.
May 21, 2008 at 4:30 pm
baji
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajiun. May Allah (swt) forgive him and provide your family with some peace and strength.
May 21, 2008 at 5:26 pm
Muse
Oh this breaks my heart. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this, and for the pain and anguish of his ex-wife and child…May Allah (swt) have Mercy on his soul and give all of you calm and patience to endure this very difficult time (ameen).
May 21, 2008 at 6:58 pm
Tasneem
I’m so sorry for your loss. May Allah forgive him and grant him a place in Jannah. And May Allah give you and your family patience and strength during this difficult time.
May 22, 2008 at 10:05 am
biryanilady
as we quakers say, i will hold you in the Light.
May 23, 2008 at 10:51 am
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May 23, 2008 at 1:38 pm
~W~
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un
I know this is a late response. I am sorry for that.
It is very sad and I pray God gives you and his family patience and eases your pain and gives Mani peace and mercy.
May 23, 2008 at 2:48 pm
Baraka
Salaam dear, dear friends and jazak Allah khair for your support during this very difficult time.
We are just beginning to come out of the fog of pain and loss associated with death and, in addition, the guilt associated with the suicide of a loved one.
What gives us solace is the loving support from friends such as you and the hope that he is at rest with the One who loves each of us seventy times more than our mothers, the One who embodies Peace, the merciful One with whom insha-Allah he has finally found rest.
For those of you in the Bay Area there will be a memorial/prayer service for him at SBIA on Sunday, June 1st at 4:30 pm. For those of you further away or not able to attend, your prayers are appreciated.
May God bless you for your empathy and for keeping dear Mani and his family in your prayers.
Warmly,
Baraka
May 23, 2008 at 8:22 pm
Asem
Salaam.
I am so sorry to hear about your cousin. I pray that Allah gives you and your family the strength and patience to recover from this loss. Ameen.
You are all in my prayers.
Best regards and my deepest condolonces.
-A.
May 24, 2008 at 1:01 am
Meghan Rose
Assalaamu aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un.
There is not much I can say, but as someone who has lost loved ones to suicide and who has tried to commit suicide, my thoughts are with you and your family. I pray that you and your family have strength, and that your cousin finally has a chance to rest from the trials he endured in this life.
May 24, 2008 at 11:19 am
yasmine
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.
baraka, i am so sorry to read about your mani. and so sad for all of you who love him, whose lives he touched, who must be feeling so heartbroken right now. may memories of him serve as some comfort during this time, may you all have all the strength you could need to get through these days – and all the days to come – and may mani’s little son grow up hearing stories of joy and love about his father, too.
may mani be granted a wide, spacious grave filled with light. may he be granted entrance into jannat-al-firdaus, and may he find there a warm welcome from the Divine, and days filled with light and grace and peace eternal.
ameen to this, and to all the duas everyone has sent your way.
much love.
May 25, 2008 at 7:41 am
cncz
salam alaikoum
ameen to everything above
inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un
May 25, 2008 at 7:59 am
raheel
May his soul rest in peace. Really a sad news to listen this evening.
May 25, 2008 at 8:18 am
Achelois
Inna lillahi wa inna ilahi raji’un.
I remember you mentioning him in one of your posts. I am so sorry to hear this. My MIL has bipolar. It is really difficult.
Inshallah he is in Jannah now.
May 25, 2008 at 8:25 am
Abdul.
Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioun.
My prayers go out to your cousin Mani, may Allah give him peace, eternal peace and forgive him. May his son grow up to be healthy, strong, pious and always in the protection of the Allmighty. May Allah make the pain and the loss easy on his parents, his ex wife and you Baraka and all your family.
Allah keep you all, and us all in his protection and safety. Ameen.
May 25, 2008 at 10:28 am
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May 26, 2008 at 12:15 am
parallelsidewalk
Really sorry to hear that. Hope you’re holding up okay.
May 26, 2008 at 3:34 pm
Shahrzad
May God bless his soul and give patience to his family. Ameen..
May 26, 2008 at 5:30 pm
TwennyTwo
innalillahi wa inna lillahi raji’un.
forgiveness.
light.
peace.
twennytwo
May 27, 2008 at 12:04 am
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May 27, 2008 at 3:58 pm
Baraka
Salaam dear friends,
I returned home last night after a week away helping Mani’s ex-wife, his young son, her mother and my own mother. Alhamdolillah now that my father is back from Pakistan (his trip coincided with Mani’s death), everyone seems to be more stable.
I am grateful for the opportunity to care for my family, and also mindful of how very difficult caregiving is. Today my body and mind are broken and exhausted as I deal with the aftermath of the past week’s exertions as well as my own pent-up grief that I was not able to address before.
Jazak Allah khair for all your loving words, duas, and support. They mean so much to me.
Warmly,
Baraka
July 1, 2008 at 12:28 am
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